INTRODUCTION:

Swinger is defined as a marriage in which two people behave in the same way. Marital communication means the exchange of thoughts and meanings, with the husband and wife trying to understand each other, trying to see their problems and differences between men and women, and the mother's feelings. Therefore, communication is not limited to words only, it "takes place through listening, silence, facial expressions and gestures". Indian society is very complex and its economic structure is very different from the Western economic society. Most of the marriages took place between members of the same caste and the same religion. Despite many changes in education, politics, and business, the long-standing myth that most marriages are arranged by parents in the days of their youth remains strong. Between 18 and 25 years old. In India, people accept some important criteria while choosing a marriage partner. These are religion, character, education, dowry amount, appearance (for women), occupation, caste or sub-caste, money, position or distance from family, and family tradition and reputation. The concept of marriage is based on the comparison of the general characteristics listed above. Even if the match is valid, private candidates often do not know each other before marriage. However, not all marriages in India are arranged. In cities, young people sometimes choose their partners through a "self-selection" process similar to dating in the United States. These organizations are often called "love marriages". These marriages can take place between people of different religions or between partners from different people, social, economic, or educational backgrounds. When two people fall in love with each other before marriage, problems may arise between parents and siblings. In some religions and families, family support sometimes disappears completely, religious and family members may not approve of their work, which makes it difficult for parents to work. If families cannot prevent couples from marrying, parents will not support the institution and will try to persuade their relatives to accept the marriage. The main difference between marriage in India and marriage in the United States is the way people marry. Generally, the love of Eastern couples occurs after marriage, while the love of Western couples occurs before marriage.

Is there a problem in your marriage?

Depression:

Spouse depression is a problem that most couples face at some point in their marriage. Depression is a response to loss or grief, whether it be death, separation from a loved one, job loss, poor health, or relocation. Marital problems and conflicts can also cause depression. Symptoms of depression include sadness, hopelessness, helplessness, anxiety, irritability, irritability, fatigue, listlessness, and decreased activity; this is normal, as avoidance of relationships, and lack of interest in past enjoyed activities, including homosexuality. There may be changes in appetite, weight, sleep, memory problems, or difficulty concentrating. There is often a feeling of worthlessness or inadequacy and low self-esteem.

Working Wife:

In more severe cases, suicidal thoughts or feelings that "life is not worth living" may occur. Married women are more likely to be depressed than unmarried women, but the opposite is true for men. Marriage appears to provide better protection for men than for women. Professional Spouse Working women are often disturbed by the lack of cooperation of their husbands and family members. Adaptation is a process that helps people live happy and fulfilling lives while maintaining a balance between their needs and their ability to meet those needs. It enables him to change his lifestyle according to the needs of the situation and gives him the power and ability to change the requirements of the environment.

Extramarital Affairs

Extramarital affairs are for people who want more happiness. It is very sad that 41% of cheating spouses accept their situation. This is not new, but it has become more popular now. International relations have existed in all societies since ancient times. In so-called developed Western societies, they have become a trend or are seen as an additional necessity for self-improvement. This is a kind of international relations. My lover is nearby. Although marriage is immoral, moral, and sinful, there are still millions of husbands and wives in the world today who get married and fall into the unfortunate snare of the serpent. Once a divorce is finalized, families usually separate without guilt. Only children can suppress their parents' emotions!

Alcoholism or drugs:

Negative drinking can lead to depression and marital problems. Individuals in marriages where one or both spouses have a drinking problem report more marital distress or problems than individuals in marriages where one spouse does not have a drinking problem.

Marital Satisfaction:

Marital satisfaction has a lot to do with good communication skills. However, excessive drinking has been linked to poor communication and aggression, increased anger, and decreased warmth and unity in relationships. These conditions can reduce a couple's marital satisfaction and cause more stress in the relationship. Emotional and physical abuse from a spouse. Domestic or spousal violence occurs when someone in a relationship or relationship tries to dominate and control the other person during the marriage. Domestic violence that includes physical abuse is called domestic violence. Rapists don't "play fair." An abuser uses fear, guilt, shame, and threats to wear you down and keep you under their control.

Domestic Violence

Domestic violence and abuse are not discrimination. This happens across all ages, races and economic levels. Although women are more likely to experience violence, men also experience violence, especially verbal, emotional and sometimes physical violence. First of all, violence in response to negative behaviour is unacceptable, whether for men or women, young or old. You need to feel valued, respected, and safe. Domestic violence often progresses from threats and verbal abuse to violence. Although the physical damage is the greatest, the emotional and psychological damage caused by domestic violence is also enormous. Emotional relationships can lower self-esteem, cause stress and depression, and make you feel helpless and alone.

Lack of communication:

Lack of communication affects all human behaviour, including personal, professional, and social life. If you don't communicate with your partner, they will feel isolated, lonely, depressed, and withdraw from the relationship. Lack of communication causes many problems. One thing leads to another, which leads to another problem. Lack of communication in a marriage can have serious consequences for children. Love, respect, and understanding are important things for every couple to think about. Share each other's experiences, accept all your partner's strengths and weaknesses, and support him in all trials. Lack of interest in family. Lack of motivation and lack of interest in activities can be symptoms of autism.

Diseases:

Many people are weaker than before the disease. This can affect those around you and can be one of the most frustrating things you can do. Sexual nonconformity Sexual nonconformity is not limited to new parents or baby boomers with hormonal imbalances. They can catch young people and newlyweds. You may not blame children, stress, or physical problems, but most couples don't like to identify and address the issues behind their sexless lives. When marriage does not lead to sexual intercourse, doctors typically define sexual intercourse as occurring less than 10 times a year. If one or two people have sex and it doesn't work, the conflict will end and they need to learn to say, "Like it or leave it."

Criminal Activities:

Marriage in adulthood is one of the most significant changes in crime. A spouse's crime and imprisonment are often considered grounds for divorce. To file for divorce based on a conviction, the petitioning spouse must be able to prove that his or her spouse committed the crime. In most cases, the convicted spouse must serve a prison sentence based on the criminal conviction before a divorce can be granted.

Financial Constraints:

Financial Constraints Businesswomen often vent their dissatisfaction with their husbands due to low salaries, financial constraints, and the need for a prosperous life, cursing them and breaking their hearts. The woman complained about the austerity policy and distorted the situation, causing embarrassment to her husband and relatives. A woman spends lavishly, without thinking about her husband's budget, often demonstrating her desire not to buy luxury goods, her lifestyle, and her Bollywood style, and tells her society and friends that she comes from a very wealthy family. It shows that it was born. Her doubts, suspicions, and misunderstandings since a woman spends a lot of time on her phone or mobile phone, talking to her mother, her relatives, etc., the fact that her man is still with them makes her feel misunderstood and guilty. It will make you feel it. With remote control for men. The woman appears to have followed her mother's advice and tried to fit into her husband's household. The level of communication between the wife and mother may be such that the mother regularly knows what financial investments the husband plans to make, how much money he spends at home on clothes and food, and when the wife will be gone.

Outside Activities:

The husband who came home after dinner, what the grandparents said at breakfast, and what the couple did in the bedroom. These banal conversations between a wife and her mother usually bring up the mother's emotions related to her husband's expectations at home, creating conflict, emotions, mistrust, and misunderstanding in their relationship. Due to the mother's frequent interference and mistakes, the woman begins to behave differently, wanting and demanding more from her husband, but at the same time expecting to receive more from him. However, a woman does not neglect her role and what she has to do according to the needs of the house she married into and the needs of her time. As a result, women's behaviour causes dissatisfaction and criticism, which leads to suspicion and misunderstanding about marriage.

Constant Exchange of Information:

Due to the constant exchange of information between women and their relatives, they began to suspect their husband and reject his manners and respect. (ii) In order to protect and protect the rights and interests of the family, the conduct and injustice towards the husband and family members, and other matters that the husband and family members actually have rights and obligations to maintain a good status in society. (iii) Conceals or conceals material facts and other health problems affecting or interfering with the marriage, such as infertility or the presence of communicable diseases such as HIV, which the woman knew about before marriage. The woman and her family lied about her education and occupation.

Manipulation, Intimidation, Jealousy and Possessiveness:

Telling your wife not to go to work because she stinks of the "You might want to meet someone" sign on her shirt, pulling her shirt collar to her lips and pulling at her pants pockets. Guideline: Ask frequently who they are talking to and where they are (especially if you arrive late). Her unrealistic expectations: We expect you to be her best man who can meet all the needs of her and her family. Don't blame others for your problems and mistakes: managers/employees, ex-boyfriends/ex-husbands always blame someone else when something goes wrong. Allow others to pay attention to your feelings. Instead of saying are you making me angry, the bully says angry or making me angry.

Highly sensitive Behaviour:

She gets angry easily and claims to get upset when angry. He will complain that some things in life are unfair. Abuse of animals and children: killing, maiming (such as breaking a butterfly's wings) harming animals (such as kicking them), or they will be teased until they cry. Ready to apply pressure during sex: likes to initiate and control sex, supports and humiliates herself, and questions her husband's opinion about sex. Offensive remarks: Continually insulting or insulting you/your family, criticizing, blaming, or criticizing you/your family. It can also affect your sleep, making it difficult for you to fall asleep due to nonverbal abuse. Strict responsibility: You must work and listen to your family. Sudden mood swings: from sweet love to broken violence in just a few minutes, to greater chaos in seconds. You feel like you're walking on eggshells around you.

Past Behaviour:

She may not be able to admit that she has hit men in the past (but may write it in her diary/journal and say that they made her do it or caused her to do it). Threats: Saying things like even if I kill someone, my mom and dad will support me, Women are always right/The system must trust women, and I will kill you like a fisherman kills a fish. Please let them go.

CONCLUSION:

Thus, it can be concluded from the above discussion that working married women have to face more difficulties in their lives like they experienced more stress and depression as compared to non-working married women. It concludes that on some aspects working married women cannot contribute significantly for the well being of their family. Their attention diverted because of working in two situations. They cannot give proper attention to their marital lives and this causes depression and stress.

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Received on 20.01.2024 Modified on 27.02.2024

Int. J. Ad. Social Sciences. 2024; 12(1):17-20.

DOI: 10.52711/2454-2679.2024.00005